Are you curious about a yoni massage, in specific about how you should do it? We will give you a glimpse into how these erotic massage technique work, so you might soon be able to give or receive this yourself! The goal of this massage is not so much to give your wife/girlfriend an orgasm, but to make her relax and let her enjoy. An orgasm during this massage is rather a pleasant side effect.
The meaning of the word Yoni
In Sanskrit, yoni means ‘source of life’ and ‘feminine energy’. Yoni is therefore not a thing, but a symbol of femininity. She is therefore often depicted as a vulva, but also means security or creativity.
Parts that are massaged are: the labia, the yoni opening, the clitoris, the inside of the yoni and the perineum (the area between the yoni and anus).
Preparation
Cut your nails beforehand and file them short. Turn off your phone and doorbell, take off any rings, necklaces and watches. Set up a quiet place and create a relaxed atmosphere. Use a mattress, put pillows down and pre-heat the massage oil with an oil heater. Light candles and let a stick of incense burn. Visit the toilet beforehand. Take a bath or shower together and soap each other lovingly. Then rinse each other clean and dry.
Let your partner tell you what she likes when massaged and let her lie on her back, with cushions under her head, legs spread and knees bent. Place a pillow covered with a towel under her hips.
Yoni massage
The one who massages sits in tailor’s seat between the spread legs of the partner. Take a deep and relaxed breath together and continue this throughout the massage session. Take a generous amount of warm oil and gently massage your partner’s breasts, tummy and thighs to prepare her for the yoni massage. Let this take a few minutes. Place one hand on your partner’s heart and let your other hand descend to the yoni to make a sex connection. Then pour a generous amount of warm oil over your hand resting on the yoni. Let the oil seep between your fingers. Now gently start massaging the yoni opening and outer labia. Gently take one of the outer labia between thumb and forefinger and slide up and down the entire length of both labia. Do the same with the inner labia.
Stay relaxed and enjoy giving and receiving this massage. Now stroke the clitoris in a circle. Alternate right and left movements. Take the clitoris between thumb and forefinger and squeeze it gently for a while. Now slowly press the middle finger of your right hand into your partner’s yoni and gently examine and massage the inside of her yoni. Vary depth, pressure and speed. After a while, gently insert a second finger into the yoni and use the same techniques. After a while, make a “come here” movement with your palm down with your index finger. Make sure your finger makes contact with the spongy tissue under the pubic bone. This is where the “G-spot” is. Also vary pressure, movement and speed at this spot. With your left hand you can stroke your partner’s breasts, abdomen and clitoris so as not to lose contact with the rest of the body. While your middle finger is massaging the inside of the yoni, you can stroke the clitoris with your thumb in up and down movements. Alternate between these techniques. Keep breathing deeply and slowly and look at each other. This massage can release a lot of emotions in women. Be patient and loving. Let your wife/friend breathe calmly and deeply when she has an orgasm and continue the massage if she wants to.
Keep massaging until you (or she) think it’s enough. After the massage, turn her on her side, cover her up and let her enjoy the “afterglow” of the massage. Lie down next to her and hug, caress and embrace her.
Tips for the man
– Don’t expect any quid pro quo back from your partner/lover such as sex or massage
– Keep in touch with the body of your partner/lover; never just take your hands of her body
– Massage with ironing movements into the direction of her heart
– A yoni massage is a nice gift to give, do it with great attention and love.
Click to see an instruction video about how to give a Yoni massage