Women can be something of a mystery to men, and even the most experienced and accomplished of lovers can benefit from a refresher in turning her on, particularly if the first blush is off the relationship, and simply diving for the clitoris isn’t as magical as it once was.
They say that the most important sexual organ is the brain, and if you’re not stimulating her mind, whether it’s with dirty sweet nothings in her ear or romancing her with candles and chocolates, if her brain isn’t engaged and excited, you’re at a significant disadvantage.
While you’re whispering those sweet nothings and/or dirty talk in her ears, why not give her ears a little nibble or two. We’re not talking about going full Mike Tyson hers, but some light biting and pulling her lobes with your teeth can be highly erotic and exciting, especially when coupled with your excited breathing, the air running down her next and in and around her ears.
Her neck and her scalp, particularly at the back of the head where it meets her neck are erogenous zones, some nibbling and light hair pulling here can really get her going.
Kissing, done well, sets off a cascade of hormones and feel-good chemicals within the brain, like dopamine and oxytocin. Most women prefer firm but soft kissing, rather than wet and sloppy, try kissing her back the way she is kissing you, creating a positive feedback loop that will surely increase her excitement.
This might come as a surprise, but you probably enjoy playing with her boobs much more than that she enjoys it. The primary areas of stimulation for her are the nipples themselves, with great variation in sensitivity and technique from woman to woman. Some women are highly sensitive and require gentle handling, while others enjoy things a bit more rough, with nibbling and biting appreciated. Using your mouth try wetting the nipples and then sharply draw in a breath through your mouth to give her a chilling sensation that many women find exciting.
The skin is the body’s largest organ and is obviously very sensitive to touch, ceasing her all over, from her toes to her scalp will stimulate her and will increase the pair-bonding experience.
And finally, there’s the clitoris, the female equivalent of the male penis. Like the penis, it gets erect, and can even “release” during orgasm if it’s stimulated enough. Remember, most women like a long build, rather than a rushed session, so by the time you get to her clit she should be wet, hot and bothered.
The key to remember is that the most important thing to do is to take note of the reactions you engender with your ministrations. She is already telling you what is working for her by her reactions. If you’re unsure, you can directly ask, there’s no shame in that, and women love a man who listens!