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Unfortunately, anal sex is still considered a huge taboo subject, and it really shouldn’t be.
Many women and many men alike want (or indeed love) visits to the ‘back door’. Whether hetero or homosexual. And even if many consider it dirty, many feel a great relaxation and experience a deep arousal alone at the thought of it, which hardly lets them go.
In this article you will learn everything you need to know about anal pleasure. What you should pay attention to and what you can do better.
If two people, partners or not, decide to practice anal sex, this decision is entirely up to them, whether as a couple or with someone who likes to have completely non-binding sex.
Surely anal intercourse is not for everyone, and whether you do it during sex or not, is also absolutely okay, as it is not for everyone.
No one should feel compelled to practice anal, if it is simply the last thing they can imagine with their partner. Because fun, stimulation and pleasure are important and should always be in the foreground!
Pressure and coercion should play absolutely no role in this.
So first of all, don’t feel pushed into something that you absolutely don’t want! However, if you have fun trying something new during sex, then anal intercourse, with the right gliding gel and a big portion of fun, could be an unforgettable experience. Especially if you follow our ultimate guide to anal sex.
If you are the type of person who imagines the greatest pain at the thought of anal, or horror scenarios such as the sphincter tearing, then I can calm you down. These are stories that some people may have experienced, but which are by no means the norm.
So don’t worry! The anus is a very sensitive zone that must be enjoyed with caution.
Whether it’s women or men, it’s important to know that anal intercourse doesn’t necessarily have to hurt, because it depends predominently on the position!
And there is much more to consider if you want to experience safe anal. A good gliding gel to prevent injuries in the anus must definitly be on your to do list.
It is also important to wear a condom, even during anal pleasure.
You really should think about this, the condom shouldn’t stay locked away in the closet, because it is important and also essential to use a condom. Why, why, why? More on that later!
Preparation is the key to success in anal sex
There are a few golden rules and it is important to abide by them and take them seriously. Through numerous experiences we now know what is important with anal and what should be done better.
There are many small tips to make sure your anal pleasure is safe.
Whether it’s the first time, or as a small upgrade. As with any other sex subject, preparation is needed, because nothing is worse than approaching a new situation with half-knowledge. This is also the case with anal traffic.
So take the time to prepare yourself optimally for anal, because you are guaranteed to have more fun, pleasure and experience an unforgettable stimulation that will make anal unforgettable.
It is also good to take time to prepare the erogenous zone optimally. Because women can hardly practice anal intercourse without preparation. So take your time with your partner to prepare yourself fully.
Anal sex without pain – that’s how it works
Women especially believe anal is always painful. There are good ways to have anal sex without pain. The first tip is to use a suitable lubricant. There are special gels that work better than the normal versions.
In order for the rosette to stretch a bit, it is worth using your fingers at the beginning. If you finger the asshole slowly but really nicely it will be less painful later, with anal penetration for both.
In any case, I recommend you to use plugs in addition to your fingers. Butt plugs slide easily into the rectum and help the sphincter to stretch quickly.
The subsequent movements during sex will certainly lead to more arousal and a better experience. And, with a little bit of luck, there is an orgasm for the woman too!
Top tips in our ultimate guide to anal sex
Tip number 1: Make sure it’s clean beforehand
It is essential not to have to go to the toilet before you want to have anal intercourse, that can literally go into your pants!
And that would be the last thing you want.
After all, anal intercourse should be fun and not use an embarrassing experience to ensure that we remove it from our sex life forever.
Because it can of course happen that there is a residual faeces in the anus and this has nothing to do with a lack of hygiene.
People just need to go to the toilet and that’s absolutely natural. Just clean beforehand, preferably with a shower or a douche. So you can maintain hygiene in your anus.
Because there’s almost nothing at the back if you’re not clean. Nobody wants to do that and it shouldn’t stay with you this one time, should it?
Tip number 2: Relax!
Because with anal nothing works and really nothing at all, without relaxation. During sex, relaxation is generally a big and important topic, which must not be neglected under any circumstances. Especially not when it comes to sex from behind.
So if you’re nervous before you practice anal, you might be able to take a warm bath. So you can really shut down your body and mind and experience deep relaxation.
And you need them too. It is necessary that your sphincter relaxes, so that the penis can easily penetrate into the anus later.
Tip number 3: Dirty talk
In order to get right into the flow, the receiver has to be really horny, then everything becomes much looser. If you’re off to sex pre-plays, then you can try these ‘dirty talk‘ templates.
Tip number 4: Rimming
Here is our favourite top tip in our ultimate guide to anal sex. If you lick the ass with your tongue, it’s called Rimming or Anilingus. The very confidential sex practice loosens and relaxes all muscles in the entire intimate area. It also moisturizes the poo-hole.
What are the dangers of anal sex?
There are some important rules that need to be followed properly in order to make anal intercourse particularly safe.
It is essential to use a condom, not to protect yourself from an unwanted pregnancy, of course, but to protect yourself from diseases that can come faster and unfortunately do not disappear at the same speed.
For example, hepatitis or HIV. And that’s not something worth it, even for the best anal you can imagine. In addition, it is incredibly necessary to stretch the sphincter slowly so as not to tear it, because this almost always leads to incomprehensible pain and can be avoided so easily.
Simply allow time during anal and carefully penetrate the anus. This is not about winning a speed competition.
The penis must penetrate slowly to protect the anus from pain and make the anal intercourse pleasant, especially if you just rediscover it is for you.
In addition, anal intercourse can lead to injuries to the intestinal exit, but as long as you follow the rules and tips, it shouldn’t happen and it won’t be particularly painful.
Variants of sex positions for anal sex
In principle, most sex positions can also be used for anal.
If you’re looking for more inspiration, you can see something in the LQBT community. These gay sex positions are practiced countless times. Whether large penis or small anus, with some practice it is guaranteed!
The best sex positions for anal are:
This is what most women stand on during anal sex
Many women love it when they experience stimulation on the clitoris during anal sex, because this ensures that they get their money’s worth, especially during anal intercourse.
Most women experience their orgasm through the vagina, which is an erogenous zone and not through the anus itself.
As a rule, this is not enough and, in my experience, is not what ultimately makes this so interesting. The mix makes it and variety determines how much fun you have.
Similarly, many women are in the top position, well over 40 percent, according to a study.
This allows them to take control of penetration and ride themselves to orgasm. You should know that communication is everything and you can’t get around a clarifying conversation.
So the rules apply, first talk, then comes the fun! You should give yourself time to get to know your partner’s wishes in order to get going during anal. In addition, a good lubricant is an absolute must for anal intercourse.
What do I have to pay special attention to during anal sex?
Hygiene is really important, because there are numerous bacteria in the anus.
Although your intestinal flora is a well-established system in you, it is thrown out of course enormously as soon as you introduce another foreign body, such as a penis, into the anus. The rectum can be irritated by this.
Most bacteria that are in the anus are neither particularly dirty nor dangerous, nor an early sign of a dangerous disease, because these bacteria are not a danger and are completely harmless.
You should just note that these bacteria do not get into other openings. Such as the eyes, or the vagina, because this can lead to inflammation that can lead to unpleasant infections.
So in short, never switch between vaginal sex and anal, because that confuses your body and can lead to complications.
If you don’t want to do without switching back and forth, because you get the feeling that it makes your sex more exciting, at least change the condom, because that protects you from such situations!
Is anal sex allowed during pregnancy?
Surely you think directly about what anal intercourse has to do with a pregnancy in the first place. And that’s basically a legitimate question, because you might think that pregnancy and anal are two different pairs of shoes.
However, you are wrong. Even if the penis does not penetrate the vagina, anal intercourse in pregnancy can be more dangerous than most men and many women would expect at first.
For the first time, you should know that sex in pregnancy is a big issue for most couples. Also anal intercourse, especially if there is a fear of endangering the embryo or foetus by infection.
And that’s the last thing parents want. Anal, especially if you switch between vaginal sex, can lead to bacteria abductions that are by no means good for an unborn child and which can certainly be dispensed with for the next nine months.
Gynecologists generally also advise against anal intercourse during pregnancy.
However, of course, this decision is up to you. It is simply good to know that it is not recommended, even if one might assume that anal sex in a pregnancy is better than that of the vagina.
But most people ignore the possible spread of germs and this should not be underestimated.
So always take care and keep everything clean, so nothing can happen to you, because safer sex, whether in a pregnancy, or just without a pregnancy, is inevitable and an absolute must!
Better to pay attention to it than too little! Because it’s also about health, and you should never play with it, especially if protection was so easy.
Why are men particularly interested in anal sex?
Don’t worry ladies! It’s not a sign of a lack of respect when your guy has buck on anal.
Quite the contrary!
Apparently he entrusts his wishes to you and wants to venture something new with you, something he really wants to try with you.
Otherwise he would never have confided in you and addressed his desires and fantasies so openly. But why is this actually the case? Where does this obsession with something that still has such a dirty reputation come from? Why do men want to have anal intercourse?
1. Anal sex is a giant taboo subject
Who doesn’t know the story of Adam and Eve? They had paradise and were only to give up the apple, which was so beautiful and quite tempting. But the apple was forbidden and Adam and Eve knew that.
Nevertheless, they could not let off their eyes from the enticing fruit.
Perhaps this is precisely because it was forbidden and therefore unattainable at first. And so it is often with anal. It’s a bit quirky and also something you don’t do every day, so it has the touch of the forbidden and sexy.
The more a topic is taboo, the better one wants to know what is behind it. And we know that almost everyone knows this.
2. The man is in control of anal traffic
So mostly, or usually. Even though most women now indulge in exactly what they want and what they are entitled to, the desire to dominate a woman in sexuality lies dormant in the nature of men.
At the same time, however, we must also say that, on the basis of numerous experiences and studies, women arevequally committed to sexually subjugating themselves.
Since the man usually kneels behind the woman, or even takes her literally from behind, the lady, unless she takes over the upper part, has little controlover the hardness and the pace.
And that is exactly what most masters of creation stand for. And no one can forbid them or talk badly. Of course, you should know that not everyone is on the same page and you can’t go out of it without a clarifying conversation. Communication is everything.
3. Anal sex is intense
It is no secret that the anus muscles are simply much stronger than those of the vagina and therefore also tighter.
This allows your partner to tighten his penis, which naturally means that he perceives the entire “pure and out movement” much more intensely.
This close feeling just often feels nicer for the men and they can really feel something, whether with or without a condom and that is by no means the norm.
A little tip for the ladies! By the way, you can train your vaginal muscles. It’s worth it, believe me! Of course, it is not mandatory.
Nevertheless, it is good to know that this possibility exists, especially after childbirth. There are many exercises for this and the Internet is full of them.
This allows you to train the muscles in the vagina. This is, of course, not a must and absolutely not mandatory. But the tighter it is down there, the nicer it is for him!
4. The secret longings
There are men, whether hetero or homosexual, who secretly stands to get their own prostate stimulated, unfortunately simply do not dare to talk about it openly and to communicate their desires and sex fantasies quite clearly.
And that is absolutely a pity. Sexuality has nothing to do with what gender you are. Put that thought right! Through anal intercourse, which these men have with a woman, they come a little closer to their secret dream, of sex from behind, and can thus tune their desires in a different way.
5. Anal sex can make the love life blossom
Many men find it good to break new ground and to give it to the woman of their dreams in particular “right.” Anal pleasure gives people the feeling of dancing out of line and doing something that the norm does not do every day.
Something hot and at the same time forbidden. And that’s where the appeal lies.
It’s about trying a lot of new things and setting no limits. Who doesn’t know. The sex you have with your partner is becoming more and more well-rehearsed and every movement is the same.
You’re not at it anymore, because you feel that it’s basically getting more and more boring. And that’s an unbelievable shame and should be changed as soon as possible before this relationship breaks down into a thousand parts.
Share your fantasies and desires and talk to each other, especially if you have a well-rehearsed love life and you both yearn for variety. Anal intercourse can also help and open completely new doors.
What should I do if I just don’t want anal sex?
There is only one correct answer here. Don’t have it. And as long as you want it. The worst thing is to want to live up to the wishes of a partner and lose your own completely.
It’s primarily about your life about you and your desires, not about being able to do justice to another person. Anal, like normal sex, is an intimate affair that basically two people share with each other.
If you feel like it’s too intimate, or you just don’t want someone to enter you from behind, that’s okay. You should stand up for it and make your point clear. Don’t be persuaded by anything you can’t imagine for yourself and your sexuality. And if anal intercourse isn’t for you, you’ll still have normal sex.
Because with normal sex you also share intimacy, but first you will be in your safe haven. This is important to many people and it is absolutely understandable.
If you have a partner who doesn’t want anal, even though you desperately want it, I advise you to talk to your partner about it. So you can quickly find a common solution.
After all, fun should be clearly in the foreground of sex, and for both. Don’t force anyone to do something they don’t want!