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What now seems so self-evident and could not have been imagined a few decades ago, is just so simple: get to know men through gay dating apps!
For decades, gay men had to go to gay bars, gay clubs or buns to discover someone who might be a potential dating partner, or even mr right.
The development of what is now the norm of online dating portals, arose with the spread of social media.
As social media became a part of our every day lives, so gay dating apps have become more and more popular for online dating in the gay scene. In fact if you’re gay, then having a gay dating app on your phone is standard nowadays.
Luckily, they turned the gay scene fundamentally upside down! Making many things easier, a lot more anonymous and, above all, anyone could now access them. Whether with your own mobile phone, PC, from home or in one of the numerous internet cafés.
We’ve all, whether hetero or gay, already installed a dating app on our smartphone, maybe deleted by now, but we’ve all installed on already.
Because online dating offers opportunities that would have been unthinkable a few years ago.
It’s now easier than ever to meet someone online, especially in the gay scene. Gay dating apps are ubiquitous and absolutely impossible to get away from.
You could even argue that the scene has changed drastically, because almost every gay man uses such a kind of gay dating app, whether for looking for sex, or even love, because the possibilities are endless and also allow you to find the ultimate ‘lid’ for your ‘pot’ – as the saying goes.
Quite simply, dating apps are everywhere, and gay dating apps are no different!
Online gay dating – pros and cons
A huge advantage is that the possibility has increased into infinity. No longer do you have to fly through half the world to meet with the potential partner of your choice.
Now, you can easily chat and exchange from home, before you dive into a face-to-face meeting.
You also have a bundled selection of attractive men who you can draw attention to with a simple click of a finger, or a swipe. Totally easy, but unfortunately also often quite anonymous.
The newly gained anonymity often draws us a line through the sand.
Because with online gay dating platforms, it is usually not so absurd to meet someone who pretends to be something that unfortunately they are not. Or, in the worst case, a situation in which he is miles away, even to be close to that. What a pity! But then again, noone said gay dating was easy. It never is in the gay scene.
But this phenomenon can be observed wherever anonymity is maintained thanks to the wonders of the Internet. However, we must calm you down.
In the meantime, there are numerous verification programs that can confirm (to a very high probability) that the person at the other end of the line, also looks as they do in the pictures. And they can also confirm that the messages are genuine.
Go and no-go on gay dating
As a rule, “normal dating” and “gay dating” hardly differ. As with heteros, there are rules to be followed by the both of you. These are accompanied by things that, in most cases, tend to arrive rather badly.
These include, for example, one-sided conversations in which (for example) you only talk about yourself, about your family and what you have been doing in the last few years. Dating is much more about getting to know each other.
It’s about finding out about the other person, and understanding if you are a match, rather than relying purely on the dating app.
Calmly ask questions to have a good conversation, because your counterpart can easily answer them. Besides, it is not recommended to report only one thing, such as your own job. Let the conversation run. Slowly let yourself out, maybe even try to liven things up with some erotic sayings on WhatsApp.
You can be proud of yourself and your career and communicate that clearly in exchange, but you should never raise such a topic on your first date. Otherwise the air could be flat very quickly, which you don’t want at all.
Also, your own ex-partner is an absolute no-go and does not belong in the first date or in a relationship.
If you know from the beginning that you only want sex, it would be fair to simply communicate this so that your counterpart knows what he is getting into. Be clear about your expectations – a date, the right match, or (as mentioned) just simply some hot gay sex!
Nothing is more disgusting and disappointing than false hope, especially when it comes to physical closeness. And just remember, gay guys have feelings, just like any other person.
The best gay dating apps
Now we will show you what options you have, and which apps/sites might suit you best. Because every gay dating app is different, just like gay guys are looking for different things.
We guarantee you that in one of these gay dating apps, you can find the right one, no matter what you’re looking for.
1. Gay Romeo
Gay Romeo is one of the most visited gay dating apps for gay men.
They are available either as a website (caution old school) or now as a smartphone app.
There are numerous ways to share photos and videos on the site, and chat with your potential date.
Gay Romeo is suitable for you if you are looking for wild fun that might amount to something serious.
Young men are more likely to romp around the age of 30-40, looking for people who surf the same wave as themselves.
2. Grindr
Thanks to the development of social media, an app called Grindr was also able to establish itself.
Among gay and bisexual men are the racers par excellence. Why? Thanks to the GPS function, this dating app allows you to find contacts that are near you. Bring a whole new experience to gay dating apps.
Grindr is completely non-binding and online. Also, the GPS function does not have to be permanently retained, but can vary according to your mood, similar to Tinder and Co.
On Grindr, all people romp around as differently as possible. Just like in real life.
You probably won’t find your dream prince here on Grindr, but surely a suitable guy for a night. The gay dating app Grindr works very well, especially in big cities.
However, you will only see a limited number of people on Grindr, unless you have a paid premium account. Nevertheless, the free version works pretty well.
3. Instagram
Instagram. Hardly any app is more ubiquitous. Everyone has their own account, or at least knows someone who uses this platform.
We all know this app, love it, more or less. You’re certainly wondering how this mainstream app made it into an article for gay dating apps.
Justified, but in countless countries, homosexuality is illegal and thus the numerous apps that were specially designed for this type of gay dating, are (therefore) forbidden.
Especially in Muslim-majority countries. Since need is notoriously inventive and love cannot be forbidden under any circumstances, one always finds a way – especially when you’re gay!
Love always finds a way, and this way is simply called the “Instagram” way to gay dating.
Usually you can recognize these profiles by the rainbow flag in the bio, or by the uploaded pictures, which are usually already quite clear.
Or if you find someone who arouses your interest, it is worth just sending a message. Because the chat function makes communication on Instagram so simple and uncomplicated.
If you don’t like it, you can block the new contact quickly, so they disappear directly from your contact list.
4. Lovoo
Lovoo is the perfect app to meet someone near you. Whether non-binding or with certain intentions, it is all up to you.
Maybe you’ve already met all the supposedly interesting gays around you? Or does it make you particularly hot to seduce heteros?
Basically, on Lovoo you can find anyone who is looking. The search function, in which you specify the gender you are looking for, allows you to respond optimally to your own wishes.
And through the match function you decide, based on your likes, who can like you. And then, based on a match, you can take the first step – with a message.
With a bit of flirting experience and a little luck, this is guaranteed to succeed.
5. Scruff
Scruff is a gay and bisexual dating app that celebrates its success by specializing in subgroups. In the gay dating scene, these subgroups are defined differently than in the hetero scene.
Because there is a lot of searching for obvious masculinity, such as a beautiful, full beard or muscles on the body, there is always plent to choose from in this gay and bisexual dating app known as Scruff.
Scruff is mainly used by gay men who are looking for gay guys, but who only looks at gay men in the first glance. That is precisely the success of this platform.
Because it is often the case in gay dating that more feminine men, rather than masculine men stand out, and the other way around.
6. Gays.com
Gays.com is a top communication opportunity for bisexuals and gay men, with around 280,000 registered members.
On Gays.com, there will always be a suitable user online who is just waiting to chat, flirt and share a hot exchange with you.
Thanks to the “fake check”. As it is called Gays.com, there is a very high probability that fakes will be mutilated on this dating site.
On Gays.com, every kind of man is represented. The more feminine guy, and the one who seems to be more convinced with his masculinity. There are absolutely no limits to your imagination, whether it’s gay or not!
Stay open and communicate your wishes, but don’t give anyone false hopes.
If you know what you want, it’s easier for another person to deal with – so be upfront.
Surely someone is swarming around the outside without knowing that you are looking for them – so what are you waiting for?
7. Tinder
This well-known app must (of course) not be missed out when it comes to gay dating. Tinder doesn’t necessarily have the best reputation. If you’re out for fast sex with gay guys and you want to try some new gay positions, then you’re not going to go wrong here.
However, there are also a large proportion of men who are looking for a solid relationship on Tinder as well. So there’s something for everyone here. The plus point of Tinder is that it is so wide spread. Here you will find a lot of potential matches.
So if your gay, don’t forget to sign up to Tinder, and get searching.
We hope you’ve enjoyed this artlicle about the best gay dating apps.
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