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Spontaneous sex offers that certain extra. Compared to planned sex, unexpected sex has the element of surprise, which releases a lot of dopamine and other happiness hormones.
Unfortunately, it often happens in partnerships that there is less and less spontaneous sex. In this article, you will learn how you will have more and better spontaneous sex.
Tip #1: Forget the schedule
Worrying about when and where you and your partner will have sex somehow robs you of the fun of it. Everyone knows that spontaneous events are more fun than the planned ones.
Imagine you’re going to a really good movie. When you think about all the details, strong expectations are formed. When you finally see it, it’s not as good as you imagine.
Tip #2: Spontaneous surprises
Show up at work, sex in the office is especially exciting. A quickie during the lunch break gives the special kick. Or surprise your partner during the morning shower.
He or she won’t see it coming, so when you finally get started and surrender to them, it’s sure to dissolve enthusiasm. Okay, that requires a little planning on your part, but the idea is that you both have fun having sex when you least expect it.
Tip #3: Flirt and seduce
Flirting can lead to spontaneous sex. This can look different in different relationships. Anything from an erotic WhatsApp, a perverse question, to a prepared romantic dinner, can heat up the mood and lead to spontaneous sex!
Flirting is a great way to feel closer. Find ways to be playful, even when you’re doing routine tasks. You could put on music while you’re having dinner and find moments to dance together. Or try a few dirty talk sayings.
Tip #4: Be ready for spontaneous sex at any time
Be prepared to do it spontaneously. This can have several meanings. On the one hand, good hygiene is important. If your girlfriend is in the mood for a spontaneous blowjob, then you better not stink.
Always having contraception ready is also useful. For example, since you spontaneously walk and want to have sex in the woods spontaneously, it is good if you have a condom with you, although no sex was planned.
Tip #5: Do it in a public place
With this fun tactic you break the law, but if you are careful, the rewards are especially cool. Try to stop somewhere on the way home from dinner and have sex in the car.
Or maybe you go with your partner to a very bad movie that hardly anyone watches. If you sit in the back row, spontaneous sex is certainly on the cards.
Tip #6: Wake him up in the middle of the night
What could be more spontaneous than interrupting a good night’s sleep? Wake him up or be up and start seduction. This is usually completely unexpected.
However, you should only use the tip if you are sure that your sex partner is not completely capricious. If you do, you might want to just wake him up in the morning an hour before the normal wake-up time.
While this isn’t quite as exciting, it still fulfills the idea of spontaneity, as it’s not the typical bed whisper just after dinner and before falling asleep.
Tip #7: Double holds better
Do you remember when you and your partner never left the bedroom at the beginning of your relationship? It was like one intoxication after another.
At some point, the daily grind comes and a single orgasm is enough for most couples. We know that everyone is busy and there are many things to do around the house, but you need to make time for intimacy.
Revive your love life with “spontaneous sex”! Make love, lie around and relax, and when the mood overcomes you, make love again.