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The fact that in porn spanking (for example, by a Dominatrix or dominant men) is often portrayed as something harsh, means that it is often thought of purely as physical punishment, or even aggressive behavior.
Whereas in fact, this erotic expression is often an enjoyable, satisfying and exciting experience. Of course, as with all sexual matters, you need to know exactly how to do it in order to achieve the desired success.
All you need are a few tips and tricks, which we are going to explore right now!
Why spanking?
The question that probably arises at first is: “Why spanking at all?” Why would you want to try spanking someone, or experience it first-hand?
There are many reasons why people are into spanking. Of course, there are people who like spanking because it makes them feel dominant, and on the other hand there are also people who like it because they love the feeling of being dominated.
Of course, it is also perfect for those people where it feels just right when they are in the heat of battle during sex. In these cases, such people will tend to find that it happens naturally. In such cases, it is often an expression of passion or excitement in the moment, and not necessarily just an expression of sexual superiority.
It doesn’t matter what the reasons are that you want to try it, it is of course always important to know how to do it…
Start slowly
When it comes to try this kinky sex element for the first time, it is very important not to rush into the whole thing.
You can start the spanking session by gently swiping your fingers over your partner’s ass, or slowly using your fingernails to apply a little more pressure and prepare him/her for what comes later.
Technique decides everything
The technique used is ultimately what distinguishes intimate, erotic spanking from pure physical punishment.
Depending on how the hand is held, different sensations can be caused in your partner. If you want to create an erotic feeling, it is always best to make your hand a little hollow and hold your fingers together. Then you have to be careful to lead your hand to the bulging part of the ass and strike easily with a slightly ascending movement.
Depending on how your sex partner reacts, you can also adjust and personalize the technique. Pay attention to the signals that are sent, adapt to them and you will certainly have a lot of fun…
Remember, communication (both verbal and non-verbal) is, as always, the most important thing when it comes to a spanking session!
And once you have experienced a bit of spanking, you may want to move on an experience a whole new world of sexual fun. So why not check out our Introduction to BDSM for more ways to spice up your sex life.
Above all, sex is always about stimulating the senses, and a bit of light spanking can be a great way to have new intimate and erotic experiences with your partner…so what are you waiting for?