without a comdom, how does it feel

Having sex without a condom – the topic keeps coming up! “He” wants to have sex without a condom, but “she” wants to have sex with a condom… Or does this question concern both sexes equally? We have done some research to find out what makes the difference in feeling, but we also want to revisit the benefits of these now versatile condoms. Let’s go!

Sex without a condom – what’s the appeal?

Clearly, both partners feel more without a condom, or the physical sensation is more intense, simply because of the closeness. Or maybe we just feel different, but not necessarily more? In any case, without a condom, we don’t have that annoying pause where we first have to find the thing, unwrap it and then put it on in an ecstatic rush. The very thought, one might suppose, gives rise to a certain dismissive attitude among us on the subject. How does it feel “without”?

… for women

Yes, for women, the sensation is more intense. Their partner is very close and both can indulge in the most beautiful thing in the world without thinking about the obligation of wearing a rubber. Just enjoy! But still, some women find it very practical not to literally leak after sex – others, on the contrary, get excited when the man cums in her pussy without a rubber.

… for the man

The usual excuses aside, of course sex without a condom feels different for men. True or not – condoms do not give the feeling of a wet vagina. And the friction also has a different intensity. But there are also men who claim they are more stable thanks to the rubber; they are less likely to suffer from premature ejaculation.

The condom

So is “with” or “without” anything like a cost-benefit calculation? What is certain is that the rubber, so annoying to some, is meant to protect those involved from sexually transmitted diseases and conception. So when used correctly, it is actually a practical thing. Not necessarily to make sex better, but certainly safer.

Practice makes perfect, even here.

Whether the condom makes for longer sex because the intensity is perceived to be lower, or perhaps just that pesky stoppage breaks the fire for a while. They must be used correctly. This task usually falls to the man. But maybe a woman can do it very well too! Can’t this unloved phase be cleverly incorporated into lovemaking? That’s up to your creativity. Let’s look at the proper application:

Preparation

It goes without saying that long fingernails or piercings should be handled with caution when combined with condoms. Carefully remove the condom from its packaging and check in which direction it can be unrolled.

Penis and condom

The prerequisite for this is a stiff penis. Carefully pull back the foreskin, if present, and put on the condom. The roll should be on the outside so you can unroll it later. Hold a small tip at the top of the rubber between your thumb and forefinger and squeeze out the air.

Now it is time to unroll

Now hold the penis in one hand and “very carefully” unroll the condom completely with the other hand. If it is not so easy, just use a new one. Condoms should not be skimped on, if it’s not quite ok, get a new one! You don’t want to get pregnant just like that, and still have safe sex.

Perfect. We’re ready

Once everything fits properly, you can start. Remember to hold the rubber directly at the base of the penis, for example when changing position, so it doesn’t slip.

Ready?

And even after sex, hold it as just described and pull the penis out of the vagina before taking it off. Please do not throw them down the toilet, but in the rubbish.

Meaning and purpose – in a relationship or in a one-night stand

If you are in a steady relationship and are faithful to each other – or outside the relationship, only have fun with a condom – then the matter is clear. You trust each other, ideally have also been tested and just enjoy “without”.

Here, the question might rather be, what does sex with a condom feel like! Because these days they come in all kinds. Rubbers with little extras, like studs or flavour, can even enrich your everyday sex life.

But if you are single or enjoy one-night stands, you are more likely – whether you are a man or a woman – to contract a sexually transmitted disease. So it is worth forgoing the extra feeling and putting your own health first.

Sexually transmitted disease (STD)

You can’t see it on your partner’s face, but erotic fun can quickly turn into the nightmare of a lifetime. Yes, that sounds dramatic, and if you prefer to have sex without a condom, we at least want to inform you of the risks.

Chlamydia, gonorrhoea, hepatitis A and C, syphilis, human papillomavirus (HPV), herpes, trichomonas, pubic lice, genital warts, and, of course, HIV and AIDS are not to be underestimated and are not as rare as one might think.

If you want to be sure, you can get tested by your gynaecologist, urologist or dermatologist. You can also ask your GP if you suspect you have contracted something – he or she will probably be able to help you.

While some things can be treated quite well, if you have HIV, for example, you have to be prepared to spend the rest of your life with it. A condom can prevent it!

Higher intensity vs risk

You can’t see it in your partner’s face, but erotic fun can quickly turn into the nightmare of a lifetime. Yes, that sounds dramatic, and if you prefer to have sex without a condom, we at least want to inform you of the risks.

Chlamydia, gonorrhoea, hepatitis A and C, syphilis, human papillomavirus (HPV), herpes, trichomonas, pubic lice, genital warts, and, of course, HIV and AIDS are not to be underestimated and are not as rare as one might think.

If you want to be sure, you can get tested by your gynaecologist, urologist or dermatologist. You can also ask your GP if you suspect you have contracted something – he or she will probably be able to help you.

While some things can be treated quite well, if you have HIV, for example, you have to be prepared to spend the rest of your life with it. A condom can prevent it!

Higher intensity vs. risk

If you want to have sex without a condom and don’t want any unpleasant surprises, you need to convince yourself with a test – the same goes, of course, for the people you have sex with.

However, given the possibility of an unwanted infection, our assumption that sex “without” is more intense can be reversed. With a properly used rubber, you can let go and enjoy yourself without having to think about the potentially intense consequences.

Sex without a condom, just felt better!?

Could it be that we just need to plunge into the “condom adventure” to get a new sense of intensity? For instance, we don’t categorically reject sex toys because they mean extra work and not like it feels “real” on the skin.

Clearly, lovemaking without rubber feels more natural to us and the prospect of “pure” pleasure simply makes us hornier. No one will really dispute that. On the other hand, safety in this context is also a big reason for uninhibited enjoyment (without regret).

This certainly applies to anal sex too!

Swallow the morning after pill, or still better watch out?

Besides the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, you (you) run another risk without a condom. Namely an (unwanted) pregnancy; the chances of getting pregnant are obviously much higher when you have sex without a condom than a pregnancy despite wearing a rubber. If you are in doubt whether you could be pregnant, be sure to buy a pregnancy test as soon as possible and you will soon know whether you are pregnant or not.

If you have had sex without a condom (unsafe sex), you can also take a morning after pill within a few days. With the morning after pill, you can of course get an STI, so if you use the pill it is not full protection like using a condom. It’s also better not to use the pill as contraception, even though it works well, in which case it’s even better to have a copper IUD placed or something similar. (With copper IUD, the woman still gets her period, but protects against pregnancy in most cases, but then again not against venereal disease)

How does sex without a condom feel?

Let’s sum it up: for some it feels like intense ecstasy with maximum body contact, for others it’s more about risk. At this point, we would like to reiterate that the break can certainly be erotically refined and the sex itself can also become a wonderful adventure with the right condom. Decide for yourself.