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Oh no, it’s time to get up! Your alarm clock rings you penetratingly out of bed. But actually you would much rather sleep a little further. Because you just had a pretty hot sex deam.
Perhaps the hot blonde from the accounting department has finally provided the blowjob of your life. Or your brother’s sexy friend takes you in your kitchen.
With such sex dreams, you’d rather never wake up, wouldn’t you?
Some sex dreams can also confuse or even frighten. You wake up in shoch and wonder why you dreamt of such things. Because in real life you would never do these things. I mean, would you really have sex with someone you don’t even know? Or perhaps have sex in public? Or even have sex with someone you hate?
Such sex dreams don’t necessarily mean you want to live them out in reality, but you are curious about what is going on inside your head.
Does that feel familiar to you, and do you want to know what these sex dreams really mean? Then you should read this now, because in this article we will tell you about your sex dreams (and what your sex dreams mean)!
Why do we dream?
It’s true, dreaming has been researched for some time and scientists have already found out a lot about dreaming.
But still, there’s a lot we don’t know about dreaming yet. Because there are different ways in which men and women dream. What may seam like common sex dreams to one person, could mean the need for a trip to the psychologist (or sex therapist) for someone else!
There are dreams at night that pass you like quick pictures and obviously have no connection. And then there is the sexual dream that provides a whole host of different emotions.
But there is also the other kind of dream. This is called a clear dream and can even be influenced by the dreamer.
This so-called lucid dreaming can be learned. So you can train to steer your dreams in a certain direction. This can be very helpful for creepy or traumatic dreams.
In the classic sex dream you work your feelings, longings and possibly a sexual desire.
How do sex dreams come about in real life?
Scientists cannot say exactly how dreams are created. But one thing is certain. The brain doesn’t stand still while you’re asleep, it acually continues to work at full speed.
It is assumed that you can only really processyour experiences that you have collected throughout the day in your dreams. Some things that still nibble heavily on you are projected into your dreams by the subconscious.
What you like or dislike, who you are sexually attracted to, your favourite sexual fantasy – they are connect in your dreams to represent something that oftens seams normal whilst you are sleeping. Even a therapist suggests that your dreams are trying to tell you something, as people often go in search of the answers to what their sex dreams mean.
Whether you will remember your dreams depends on various factors.
On the one hand, it depends on the respective sleep phase. If you are currently in deep sleep, you will remember the dream less than, for example, in a transition phase.
Another factor is the attention you give to this dream. If the sex dream moves you, stirs you up or makes you very happy, then you will usually remember it. But dreams are fleeting.
You can have up to five sex dreams per night.
These are immediately forgotten two to five minutes after waking up. If you want to analyze a particular dream, it is best to write it down immediately after getting up so that all the details remain in your memory.
In this way, you can effectively train your dream memory and gradually remember your dreams even better.
Why sex dreams don’t always have anything to do with sex
Women and men are passionate, sexual beings. It’s normal when you dream of something sexual, right?
Yes, our society deals with sexuality much more freely and it is not surprising that every now and then a sex dream creeps into your brain. After all, we are confronted with sex everywhere (and we don’t mean public sex).
But a sexual dream doesn’t always have anything to do with sex. These dreams are caused by your worries, fears and desires that penetrate your subconscious to you in this way, or even your current relationship or sex life.
Of course, your sex dreams can also point to your sexual desire towards a person and show you what you want. But there is something other than desire behind the frightening sex dreams.
The 5 most common sex dreams and the meaning behind them
Sex dreams are different for each person. After all, the way our subconscious works when sleeping differs from person to person, and is also different for a man or a woman.
Nevertheless, there are certain scenarios that can appear at some point in our sleep.
We have taken the five most common sex dreams, and here we explain to you what they mean.
Sex dream #1: Having sex with a stranger
Even if you may have a bad conscience towards your partner, if you dream of something like this, there is no reason for it.
Just because you dream of going abroad doesn’t mean you’re really doing it. In a dream, your thoughts are free and after all you dream alone, or maybe not?
Nevertheless, you should worry about thisdream, because it says so much about your relationship. When you dream of having sex with a stranger, you’re missing something important in your life.
This can be tenderness, but it doesn’t necessarily have to indicate something sexual. A friend may be the object of your dream, but is this normal or wrong, and are you attracted to them?
You may be missing your family’s support or your job may make you unhappy. Whatever is behind it, there is something you need to change in your life to finally be happy and satisfied again.
But if you dream of your partner cheating on you, it has a very different meaning.
This dream reflects your fear of being abandoned. Think carefully about where this fear comes from and whether it is justified. Best, you talk to your partner about it. Only in this way can you get rid of this fear.
Sex dream #2: Having sex with an ex
Actually, you haven’t thought of your ex for a long time. The last thing you want in real life is having sex with him/her again. You no longer have erotic feelings towards your former girlfriend or boyfriend.
Nevertheless, you had a hot sex dream with him/her, which also made you really horny. It’s just stupid that your new partner is lying next to you and kissing you awake.
Of course you have a bad conscience, but as mentioned earlier, you don’t have to have that.
Because this dream doesn’t say that you want sex with your ex.
Quite the contrary! You process your past relationship through this sex dream. Maybe you saw or experienced something during the day that evoked old memories of your ex.
Don’t worry about it, but take the opportunity when your new partner is next to you. Show him/her how much you desire him/her. So every thought of your ex disappears abruptly.
Sex dream #3: Sex with your boss
You’re in the office with your boss and doing indecent things with him/her on your desk? But actually you find him/her anything but attractive and could never imagine that he/she could make you so sharp, right?
Don’t worry, this dream doesn’t mean you have feelings for your boss.
Rather, such dreams are always about the balance of power. Your boss is finally in the hierarchy of the company above you and thus also has a bit of control over you.
By the way, this sex dream is not only common in women, but is also an erotic and sexual fantasy of many men.
So if you’re dreaming of hot nights with your boss, it’s usually not sexual. Rather, it’s about you perhaps wanting praise or recognition.
An upcoming promotion or salary negotiations can also be triggers for these dreams.
Sex dream #4: Dreaming of violent sex
If you are someone who is very concerned about harmony and tenderness during sex, a dream of violence during sex or even rape can be very frightening.
However, it depends on what role you play in your dream.
If you are the victim in your dream who is raped or even tortured, then that may indicate that you feel constricted in some form. This doesn’t have to be in your relationship, but can also relate to your work.
However, if you enjoy this violence, you may feel overwhelmed or face difficult decisions. You’d like to leave control and responsibility to someone else.
If you are the one who torments your sex partner, you may want more control in your life. Perhaps a particular event has caused your life to be messed up and you will finally want to act on your own again.
Sex dream #5: Object of desire
In your dream you are the object of desire. Everyone wants to touch you, touch you and fuck with you.
And you enjoy this attention to the fullest. But when you wake up, you get scared of that desire. It’s not your body that you want to share with so many people.
Rather, it’s about you possibly feeling small and insignificant. But you want to be loved and understood by the people around you, you want their full attention. That is what the expresses.
If you do not feel desire in your dream, but rather fear, then an can mean the exact opposite.
The people around you put too much pressure on you, you feel overwhelmed and don’t know if you can live up to all these desires.