Lust or frustration?
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Every person does, from time time, make some king of sound during sex. Some are grunting noises, others are wheezing, and there are also those who even like groaning like horses during this intimate act.
But nothing confirms as much as the lustful moaning during the sex with your partner. So the real question is – is moaning always an expression of passionate pleasure? Or is there something completely different behind it?
In this article we will get to the bottom of whether a good moan during sex is lust, or simply frustration, and we will also provide you with some tips and tricks for a better experience!
The small but subtle difference of pleasure
If your partner moans with every move and thrust, or even cries out, then that’s the best confirmation you can get, right? It signals to us that our partner also enjoys the lovemaking, and in some cases it can also indicate when they are likely to orgasm.
But an honest moan during sex is not just an expression of pleasure. Through uncontrolled sighing and moaning, the body releases adrenaline and drives us ever further.
Tension is built up within our pleasure center until it discharges in a violent orgasm and leaves a feeling of pure satisfaction.
Why women (and sometimes men) are more likely to moan out of frustration
But a moan is sometimes not honest, sometimes people are simply making noise to appease their partner – e.g. fake noises. Women are especially good at deceiving their partners with lustful moaning, or even the orgasm.
But why does your partner fake their pleasure? There are several reasons for this.
1. She is not aroused
It’s a fact that women simply take longer than men to stretch to the pinacle of their lust.
Men are visual beings. As soon as they see something that excites them, they are actually ready to stand with their partner. But women need a lot more in order for them to be ready for sex.
They must also be able to give their heads to their own. It is not enough to simply knead her breasts or play around with her tongue to make a woman hot.
Unfortunately, time is not always enough in everyday life for a woman to be able to flip the sex switch in her head. That’s why she only plays her pleasure to her sex partner.
2. Making your partner happy
Sometimes you have a desire for your partner and want sex, but somehow it’s not as it should be. You simply cannot reach the peak of pleasure.
That’s why you start moaning during sex, because you don’t want your partner to be disappointed or to be reproached.
3. Fatigue
The day was long and you just want to go to bed. However, the situation is different for your partner.
He lays down and seeks closeness and tenderness. Of course, we do not want to deny them. To make it happen as quickly as possible, the fake moaning comes into its own.
4. Sex is bad
Of course, sex should always be fulfilling for both sides. But sometimes the current sex partner is simply not able to ignite the desire of the other person.
They’re simply just not feeling it in the same way, and therefore they don’t really respond to their partner in the same way, or they’re only focussing on their own desire.
In this way, the sex is simply only satisfying for one and not both.
For the sake of simplicity, this disaster is not talked about, but the desire and also an orgasm are feigned. If the expectations are too great, then I recommend you to try slow sex to begin with.
These are only 4 of many different reasons why a lusty moaning is used during sex. However, only the sex partner feels confirmed by this.
The person who only pretends to deceive this lust remains unsatisfied and depressed. But that shouldn’t be the case.
Sex is not just there to enjoy and satisfy your own pleasure. If both sex partners are horny for each other, then it’s twice as much fun!
How to make your partner moan – 4 tips that really help!
You come home, see your partner and would love to just jump all over them? Actually a wonderful idea, but is your partner already hot for uninhibited sex, right there an then, just like you?
Maybe they have just masturbated during a sexy nude only chat and is still exhausted.
If so, then switch down a gear and think about how you can make your partner moan, not out of frustration, but with pleasure.
Here we have 4 great tips to help you!
Tip #1: Get into your partner
Is your partner stressed from work? Then he or she may need a relaxing Nuru massage. The important thing for an honest moan, is that you give your partner exactly what he or she needs most. Then the lust will usually come of its own accord.
Tip #2: Have you ever thought of toys?
Sometimes a man doesn’t manage to arouse his partner by themselves. Or the common sex life is too well-established and routine. Then it’s time for a bit of variety.
Sex toys are plentiful, there is something out there for every taste, and these can be used to increase your own, and your partners, desire.
Tip #3: Ensure a pleasant atmosphere
If your partner’s head isn’t yet in tune with the romance and sex, then there’s an easy way to change that. Make sure your partner feels completely comfortable.
For example, you can prepare a romantic dinner for two, use candles instead of a lamp, or you can run a warm bubble bath. Let everyday life out and romance in.
Tip #4: Everything can, nothing has to!
This is probably the most important tip of all: there can be no passion if you expect too much from your partner. This pressure is the number one lust killer.
So don’t try to push your partner to have sex, but let everything come to you. Just enjoy the time together for the both of you. Pamper yourself, and let yourself be pampered as well.
And if you need some aditional help to build up to an amazing sex session, then when not try a sex game.
It will work wonders and you will find that an honest moaning during sex, is much more fun than a fake orgasm.