Hands up if you’re male and don’t love blow jobs. Anyone…anyone…? No we didn’t think so! For the majority of guys it is the holy grail of all sex acts and if they happen to hook up with a girl who really and truly knows what she’s doing…well she can probably start choosing the ring now. OK – gross generalisation and not entirely true, but you get where we’re coming from.
So what is the secret to a really great blow job and how can you improve your technique if you find yourself getting lock-jaw after the first 60 seconds? Here are some top tips from our resident blow job queen!
First up – remember that your tongue is like any other muscle in your body. You gotta use it or you’ll lose it. Not literally of course, but you will lose your blow job stamina if you don’t exercise your tongue on a reasonably regular basis. And losing stamina can lead to tongue muscle cramps and tension in the tongue, which in turn leads to accidental biting and grazing with the teeth, which in turn leads to a pretty underwhelming end to the whole experience – for both parties.
Secondly, this is about giving your man pleasure, turning him on, and making him feel great. After all, great sex is as much about seeing your partner enjoy themselves as it is about you getting your rocks off. That said, it should never feel like a chore – something you have to do to keep him happy. You should enjoy it too, and if you’re really not feeling up for it then it’s better to have this conversation. No man wants to think that you’re doing something you really don’t want to do because you feel you owe it to him. So make sure you’re in the right frame of mind before you get started.
Now, are you sitting/kneeling comfortably? This bit is really important. If you’re not comfortable you’re going to start getting tired and feeling awkward pretty quickly, so make sure you find a position that works for you and gives you good access to his pride and joy.
Let’s get started. Whether he’s hard as a cock shaped rock or ‘not quite there yet’ the place to start is with the tongue, gently licking from the base of his penis all the way up to the top. Do this as many times as you need to until you feel he’s ready for Stage 2.
Next take his penis inside your mouth and use your tongue, hands and fingers to stimulate the shaft (including the parts that you can’t fit in your mouth – cos let’s face it we’re not all Linda Lovelace). Gently pull down with your fingers/hand while you maintain a slow/steady sucking motion. But again, be gentle. You’re not trying to suck out the elixir of life, here. Try and maintain eye contact if you can. Stare into his eyes and let him see that you’re having quite a nice time down there, thank you! This will be as much of a turn on for most guys as the actual licking, sucking and stroking. If you’re particularly good at multi-tasking you can also try giving his balls some attention. It’s the ultimate added extra!
Like anything else, practice makes perfect when it comes to blow jobs and if you’re new to the whole BJ business then you may not have him shuddering with pleasure first time around. But hang in (not on) there and you will get better at it. Just remember, the one thing you don’t want to do is leave teeth marks! So try and relax your jaw, don’t take in more of his cock than you can comfortably manage, have fun and it’s all good in the Jap’s Eye hood. So to speak!