We covered the basics of blow job technique a few blogs back so today, kids, we’re going to talk about the fine art of going down on a woman.
Now as we may have mentioned in previous blogs women are complicated creatures, and the clit can be a contrary little thing when it wants to be. You think everything’s going well, she’s making all the right noises and then godammit but if the bloody thing doesn’t go and move. Frustrating beyond belief. But like everything, practice makes perfect and with a little perseverance and a very agile tongue the lady at receiving end of it will be in seventh heaven.
So, first things first, as always before you dive in, foreplay is essential. Make sure she’s nice and juicy before you head south. When both of you have reached the required temperature start kissing and licking gently around the vagina; the inside of the thighs, the belly, her hips – anywhere but ‘right there’, The anticipation will get her even more excited and when you do eventually start licking the love zone, it will feel even better for her.
If your lady is a confident, vocal woman she may well let you know when she’s ready for full action. But if she’s not you should be able to tell by the pants and moans. As a general rule wait until you can hear her breath coming faster than normal before you go near her clit.
Stage 2 – very gently use your tongue to probe and lick her clit, applying light pressure to begin with. Most women need to start really gently and slowly and work up to orgasm. The trick here is to get the balance right – too gently and there won’t be enough stimulation to bring her to orgasm, too hard to begin with and it will take an eternity and you’ll get a ferocious pain in your tongue. So start gently, gradually increasing pressure.
Stage 3 – add a finger! While the flat of your tongue is doing amazing things to her clit gently slide a finger or two inside and aim for the g-spot. And if you manage to find it first go this is where sparks will really start to fly. She may start bucking her hips and grabbing your hair – which, frankly can be a bit distracting and make you ‘lose your spot’, so try and stay focused. If this is going well then take your other hand and place it gently on her belly just above her pubic bone. Press down really gently. Now she’ll have stimulation and amazingness from three different areas. At this point you may notice that she starts to shudder or shake. This is a good sign and means she’s almost there. Whatever you do now, do not lose momentum. The aim is to maintain speed and pressure until you hear her scream out and tell you how fucking good it feels. Tongues may get tired, fingers may get cramp. Stay strong and push through the pain! Because being able to make a girl cum through oral feels pretty damn sweet.