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Foreplay is only for women? Who wastes time on the prelude, and doesn’t appreciate the real sex?
Foreplay only slows down our desire? This nonsense is probably one of the oldest myths in the field of pleasure and love.
When the subject of foreplay comes up, opinions are divided. In fact, it is often men who are more critical of the tender approach to sex and have little sense to do so.
Contents
- What exactly do we mean by our “prelude”?
- What is a prelude good for?
- Prelude brings you closer emotionally
- Prelude is usually more fun than the actual sex
- You get to know your partner’s preferences
- A good foreplay helps better than any relaxation exercise
- 5 hot foreplay tips for him
- 5 hot foreplay tips for her
Everyone who despises foreplay during sex is to blame! Without foreplay, a lot escapes you – whether you’re a man or a woman.
There are even experts, such as the American sex therapist David Schnarch, who claim that foreplay is much more intimate than the actual act.
In the prelude we get really close and reveal ourselves. I don’t recommend you immediately put your penis in your girlfriend and start with the A-spot penetration!
Instead, it is worth starting a little more cautiously at the beginning with some good foreplay.
What exactly is behind it, exciting facts about the intimate time BEFORE sex and sparkling tips for him and her – that’s what you’ll discover here!
What exactly do we mean by our “prelude”?
From tender kisses to hot blowjobs, from foot massages to a quick wash-off – foreplay can have many facets. Which it should, because using the same process for “warming up” can be a bit boring in the long run.
Many couples even experience the overture as a much more intimate thing than the main act. In addition to ecstasy and high-altitude flight, it is above all about bonding, love and affection. And what could be better than some tender foreplay?
The prelude doesn’t always have to take place directly in bed, often really good sex starts hours before the actual act.
For example, a sexy question or just the knowledge that something is still going on tonight – all this can make sure that our senses slowly but surely get in the mood.
An erotic voice message or a few ambiguous emojis, everyone knows what is meant and the head cinema begins.
There are no specific specifications for the prelude as to how it will run, or how long it will take. Also, longer is not always the same as better.
It is especially important that you feel the closeness and body of the other, discover it and get yourself in the mood. Some people need half an hour to do this, others take 10 minutes.
Some prefer to bring each other up to just before the orgasm during the prelude, others only cuddle and snuggle until the desire for more is aroused.
This applies to everyone. What exactly is the right prelude for your partner, of course only he will know himself and (at best) you will too.
If you are still unsure or the same “kissing and fumbling” is already hanging around your neck, then you can of course be inspired by the tips below!
Foreplay has other advantages than just boosting the mood. Apart from the fact that the sex will most likely be better afterwards and you can relax, there are a number of advantages that you can gain through your time together.
Prelude brings you closer emotionally
The prelude always has a lot to do with seduction, and you can seduce with words and/or deeds outside of the bed. A good conversation, laughing together, a sweet – and serious – compliment, or support of the other in the household or in difficult situations are a few real pluses.
You only take time for yourself without switching to wild, hot sex. You explore the bodies of the other, can exchange wishes and sex fantasies in peace and work out a beautiful mood together.
When on the day do you have the time to lie tightly wrapped up in bed with your loved one and exchange tenderness?
Prelude is usually more fun than the actual sex
This may not apply to all couples for a long time, but this sentence will appear often if you go on the internet in search of “prelude”.
And the idea is not even so absurd, especially partners who are mostly on romantic or slow sex, get their money’s worth during the prelude.
Because here, not only the stimulation of the other is in the foreground, but also relaxation and loneliness. Here is much more time to take care of his counterpart’s favorite places than later in the actual act.
You get to know your partner’s preferences
A good foreplay not only makes the sexual experience more intense in itself.
After all, the prelude is about more than a few tender kisses and gentle caresses.
Here it can also get really hot! Mutual petting – especially in the erogenous zones -, snuggling, nibbling, sucking and proper licking makes you want each other, and really heat it up.
You have enough time to find out what really turns your treasure on. Even if you already know many points with which you can drive him mad, new, hidden zones can always appear over time.
A good foreplay helps better than any relaxation exercise
Just let go of the stresses of everyday life, enjoy sensual and relaxing touches and be very close to the person you love?
Relaxation doesn’t always have to be about yoga and quiet music, far from it. A good long foreplay is proven to relieve just as much stress from you.
For this, the sex may be all the wilder afterwards, which in-turn releases additional happiness hormones!
A complete, free recovery program with your loved one – so what are you waiting for?
According to the cliché, women always need it tenderly and relaxed in bed. In fact, according to some sex polls, 65% of them may be true. Otherwise you should be an attractive man. (You can find out what it takes here.)
Of course, there are also days when we would rather have it hard and dirty, but especially in the prelude with your partner you will probably be able to score less.
1: Gentle entry through Dirty-Talk
As mentioned above, the prelude does not start with kissing or with hot finger games.
With words alone, you can get your loved one in a good mood. Comments have a lasting effect in situations where sex is not possible.
As an example, you’re in the subway with your loved one and whisper in your ear: “You actually know what a sexy crisp ass you have in these jeans. I’d love to nibble at it.’
But also text messages aka sexting are effective. Write to her, for example, that you can hardly concentrate in the office, because you have been thinking about her lips all the time. The effect of such literal signs of your desire come without delay – if you are both at home, she can’t wait to give you what you desire.
Dirty Talk can also be used in bed, hot promises and compliments really warm up the mood!
2: Tingling passion through delicate touches
The human body has many erogenous zones to offer – and these are not limited to the intimate area.
During the prelude, include the soles of the feet, the inner sides of the thighs, the nipples, the neck and the ears – everything from gentle kissing to nibbles is allowed.
Let your hands and lips wander over your partner’s entire body before you dedicate yourself to the actual foreplay.
You can also make a change out of it so that each of you gets their money’s worth! If you have found 3 sensitive zones and successfully pampered them, you can now relax yourself and your partner has to go looking for them.
We women in particular like the slow relaxing, deep touches.
An intensive massage with warming, fragrant massage oil brings the blood into a tangent and helps to let go of all the stress of everyday life.
When you’re done with your partner’s back, don’t stop! The love muscles below the belt line also want to be pampered!
After the massage has served some time only for relaxation, you are now slowly moving on to “heat up” your partner a bit.
When was the last time you bathed or showered together? When was the last time you were with your partner in the wave pool or in the sauna? If you can’t remember, you should refresh your memory as soon as possible.
As you know, foreplay doesn’t have to start in bed, and a relaxed atmosphere with background thoughts can work wonders!
In the shower or at the edge of the pool, the hottest petting often takes place. Foam the loved one under the warm jet of water, show her your admiration with your eyes.
Touch her secretly under the water – of course she must not be noticed. Here the sparkling allure of doing something forbidden mixes together with your flaring feelings!
Don’t be afraid to take toys to bed. Vibrating attachments for the fingers, for example, can intensify touches to nipples and vagina.
Take the time to try out different toys together with some fun. You can combine toys with with really good fingers.
Testing new toys or buying them together can get your feelings going!
For example, if she’s having a sex shop after work or on a free weekend, ask her whether she’d like to be spoiled tonight and watch out for her look. She is free to choose.
No matter what it will be in the end, the evening can’t come fast enough for you!
Men don’t need any foreplay at all and just love hot, real sex?
This prejudice has probably long since been outdated, with a few exceptions our male partners do not say no to good foreplay.
No better moment than the foreplay is suitable for this!
Because once it gets to the point, he will be so close to you that he has no overview of your wonderful body.
Show him your curves, your crisp butt and your beautiful hips.
For the first time, please just look, but don’t touch. If he is only allowed to stand next to him and watch, then that will automatically make him hot and horny.
Disgraceful who thinks evil: But you only suck on your fingers lost in thought.
It’s funny that it makes him sweat so much…
For example, nibble at his ear or breathe a few hot things into it, Dirty Talk isn’t just for the bed!
Whether in public, visiting friends or at your common dining table – small, unambiguous clues will bring the boiling for him. Whether a hot evening was planned or not, if you send out the right signals, then it is definitely on!
Men also like to be domineered. If you put him out of action with handcuffs during the prelude – all the better. The role of the weaker, the helpless, can also be very appealing to men.
Be careful not to overdo it too much though! The dominant role seems like cinnamon for many men: a pinch of it tastes heavenly, too much becomes a little bitter!
Men like it when they are a little stressed about the torture during the prelude.
If you make him hot, but you always easily escape it, his desire increases more and more, and he will be more than enthusiastic.
Take small breaks again and again, ask innocent questions or start a deliberately boring Small-Talk topic. Soon he will know what you are up to, but it only makes the whole thing more exciting.
A blowjob is and will probably remain the biggest thing in the prelude for him.
To do this, enclose the penis firmly with the lips and let it dive deep into the oral cavity. Pushes the glans to the palate and then pulls the air out of the mouth to create a vacuum.
If you now play around his head and the frenulum with quick tongue movements, he will hardly be able to control himself.
A super “finish” of your foreplay, and then finally move on to hot sex!
By the way: Blowjob (tips here) or a hand-job – why not combine both in the prelude? Many men enjoy the alternation between the warm, soft mouth and then the firm, gripping hands.
You want to go one level further? Try out with a little anilingus (ass licking).
Conclusion:
Although the prelude is no longer discarded as it was a few years ago, there are still enough couples who miss all the fun.
Foreplay can be much more than a bit of fumbling and two kisses. Sex with an extensive, intense foreplay is demonstrably better, it’s perceived as more beautiful and the orgasm should be stronger.
So if you skip a good prelude, you only get half the fun and miss a lot of beautiful feelings!
What was the best foreplay you’ve ever had?
Let me know in the comments.