On offer today: the reasons to give BDSM a try!
Since “Fifty Shades of Grey” has been in cinemas, everyone has heard of the term BDSM and a large part of the audience will have even thought of trying it out for themselves (if they haven’t already).
If you are one of those people who has been dancing around the subject of BDSM for a while, but are not sure how to approach it, then you have come to the right place! We at CAM4 have 10 reasons to try BDSM, in our opinion, everyone should experience it once.
- Satisfying curiosity through new experiences
Let’s assume you’ve actually been thinking about trying BDSM for a long time, but just don’t know how. In that case, you will have a lot of questions in your head, as well as a certain amount of curiosity. There is only one thing to say about this: the proof of the pudding is in the eating! Dare to follow your inner desires and replace the questions in your head with new experiences and maybe even by discovering a completely new side and passion in yourself!
- Something new for a change, BDSM!
Whether you are in a relationship or not, one thing is at least true: life is too short to have monotonous sex. This applies to relationships in particular, of course, but also in general. Many people associate a certain amount of cost and effort with BDSM, but this is not true. It actually costs very little, sometimes even nothing, to try something new.
Especially in the beginning, you don’t need expensive handcuffs or other fetish gadgets. Household items such as blindfolds, thin scarves and ribbons are ideal. The bottom line is that you only need to sacrifice very little to have new exciting experiences!
- Get to know yourself through BDSM!
It is likely that you will try out new BDSM practices with a partner, but this is not the exclusive focus. By trying new, different methods and techniques, you can also learn a lot about yourself. A common misconception is that the pain factor is most important in BDSM, but this is not the case.
While pain clearly plays a role, especially in the early stages of BDSM, it’s also about discovering what you don’t like at all. Tickle torture, for instance, elicits a totally different sensation. Nevertheless, it’s about the feeling of power.
You don’t have to put up with everything – pleasure is at the forefront. Choosing the BDSM habits that suit you is a process of broadening your view of sex and getting to know yourself very well. Not just whether you are the submissive partner or the dominant partner during kinky sex, it’s about trust, intimacy and your own boundaries.
- Deepen the relationship
To get interested and involved in bondage and other BDSM practices in the first place, you need to have a high degree of trust in the person you are trying it out with. Of course, it is likely that this will be a steady partner, but there are also people who try out new practices outside of a steady relationship and they actually like that better. Experiencing new things together strengthens the relationship between two people, and if you are in a relationship, it also brings a lot of new wind in your sails. Honesty plays a big role in experiencing BDSM. You and your partner need to share your desires and fantasies to get the most out of your new experience. In other words, this automatically deepens your connection and intimacy!
- Expanding your senses
By trying new things, you have the chance to feel new sensations you have never felt before. If you think outside the box and try things out with a blindfold or restraints, for example, entirely new doors will open for you. It is also worth noticing the shift in sensory perception once one of your senses is restricted. For example, when you are blindfolded, all your other senses are more sensitive. This definitely works through in real life too, not just in your own sexuality, look it up this has been scientifically proven once.
- Learn new boundaries confidently
Whether it is with ice cubes, candle wax or a whip, you will definitely discover new boundaries of yourself that you may not like, or conversely discover new passions. Different degrees and preferences are there to discover think: discipline, handcuffs, masochism or being tied up can all be a good idea, regardless of your expectations. It’s up to you to decide how far you want to go, but pushing your limits is definitely good for your sexual intercourse. Communicating is very important as always, so also sexually, but sometimes pay attention to the way you bring things, gauge what the other is interested in and what you enjoy together in the conversation,
- Reducing stress through bdsm
The extended world of BDSM is all about escaping everyday life and being able to surrender completely to your passions and desires. You can completely immerse yourself in it and take a break from your everyday worries if you want to.
- The ability to take on new tasks
Again, this applies more to relationships: you can let your imagination run wild – this includes trying out a role reversal. Even if you are very shy outside the bedroom, you have the chance to take on a more dominant role and thus experiment with BDSM. The reverse is also possible: if you are very authoritarian and dominant in everyday life, you and your partner can have a lot of fun experiencing yourself in this submissive role.
- A breath of fresh air in your relationship
This point probably follows partly from the other reasons above, but it deserves its own place: BDSM can really help you and your partner make sex more exciting again. Trying out new things can bring you closer together again and maybe even revitalise the whole relationship. It doesn’t necessarily have to involve sadism either, but communicating about your fantasies, taking control and daring to let go of certain things sometimes can be the way to go.
- You may skip sports for this purpose
Once you really get into it, you will quickly realise that many of the exercises can really make you sweat and even train your muscles. So you are combining a duty by exercising with a passion.
Do you have experience with kinky sex, and when it comes to bdsm, are you the dominant partner or the submissive partner, have you ever deliberately hurt someone?