Your sex life doesn’t have to be in a rut to give it a little more spice. Sometimes it’s just fun to add something else, surprise each other and have a more exciting sex life.
The best way to know what the other person finds exciting or fantasizes about is of course to be able to talk freely about it. Put the taboos aside and be honest about what seems fun and exciting to you. Who knows, you may come across some interesting topics you didn’t know you were both fantasizing about.
7 Tips to spice up your sex life.
Tip 1 – cold sensation
With the summer approaching, this is totally a fun toy, ice cubes! When you have started the foreplay, and give each other’s bodies a lot of love, you can let the ice cube slide over everything. As a man, for example, you can take it in your mouth and put your face between her thighs. The inside of the thigh is very sensitive, with the ice cube in your mouth you slide closer and closer to her most sensitive spots… But be careful that it doesn’t get too cold.
Tip 2 – dirty talk
For some it is very common, while others are still a bit uncertain about it. Talking during foreplay and sex, when you know the right things to say a very nice turn-on! If you know what the other person is fantasizing about, you can include that in your text. But when you don’t, there’s still enough you can say! Tell her/himwhat you’re going to do, down to the smallest detail, but be sure to use adjectives as well. For example: “I will take that delicious, hard cock in my mouth” or the other way around: “I let my fingers slide into your wet, tight pussy” Challenge each other with your words, find out what excites the other person to hear you say.
Tip 3 – flavors
Whipped cream is delicious on a dessert, but it can also be delicious to play with. You can also use custard, chocolate sauce, syrup, etc. to lick it off again! It’s handy not to use too much, otherwise the bed becomes a real mess. If you like a mess, this is also a nice activity to do under the shower. Drip some of these sweet treats all over your partner’s nipples, belly and more, in order to let your tongue slide further down… Afterwards you can just as easily rinse the leftovers away.
Tip 4 – the hand to yourself
Masturbate. Don’t try to hide doing it, because that won’t necessarily makes your sex life more exciting. (but if you want to, no problem) Sit opposite to each other and show how you play with yourself. Show what you like, which spots, what rhythm. Make it even more exciting by making regular eye contact with each other, show it when it excites you and take your time. When you feel an orgasm approaching, take a break to postpone it. There is a good chance that you will be able to finish together.
Tip 5 – slide
Do agree in advance that this is not (necessarily) about anal sex! A case of oops is in a small corner this way, so it’s handy to have discussed this beforehand. Make sure the woman lies on her belly, take lots of lubricant and massage her buttocks generously with it, don’t skip a spot and pay extra attention between her buttocks. When you lie down on her as a man with your stiff penis, you can slide it between her buttocks. You can slide all the way to the front without penetrating her, a wonderful feeling for both parties. You can also press her buttocks against each other with your stiff penis in between. That’s actually similar to between her breasts, only easier!
Tip 6 – location
Maybe very obvious, but maybe not. Try out a different place to make love than ‘just’ in the bedroom, to start with a different place in the house. Easy on the couch is of course a comfortable option, but it doesn’t always have to be very comfortable, does it? Sometimes there is just a more exciting spot to think of. Near a window, where you can easily look outside, maybe see people walking by, without them seeing you in full view. Lots of choices in the house, kitchen, washing machine, dining table, be creative!
Tip 7 – others
Not a tip for everyone, certiainly not the insecure among us. But a good subject to discuss. What do you think about these possibilities: a trio, swinging, a couples club, or looking at others? Sometimes it’s very exciting to just talk about this freely and openly, even without it actually happening. If as a couple you both find it an exciting idea to discover a little more about this, you can always look at what suits you and your horny desires best. For example, you can visit to a couples club, without ‘having to’ swing right away. You can have horny sex with your own partner, while watching others and being watched.
There are a lot of ways to spice up your sex life, everyone has their own exciting criteria. As with everything else, the key to a fun and exciting (sex) life is communication. Talk and discover!