Cunnilingus has an undeserved reputation of being one of the trickiest sexual acts to perform well. This characterization is grounded in cultural judgments of women’s genitals as being “complicated” and “mysterious”
A lot of women simply don’t feel comfortable receiving oral sex. For some women, this is due to insecurities about their scent or taste, or their internalized beliefs that their genitals are “ugly”.
Some worry that their partners are finding the experience unpleasant. Others dislike being the center of attention, or find themselves unable to relax when receiving. Women are socialized to be hypercritical of their bodies, so having your eyes, nose, and mouth right in the middle of one of the most sensitive parts of the female body is going to evoke at least a little resistance.
1. Take your time
Taking your time is another great way to help her feel more relaxed and excited about what you have in store for her.
2. Warm her up
Spend plenty of time in “kissing, hugging, touching, and sharing fantasies,” and make sure she’s aroused before starting to make your way between her legs.
Once you’re down there, continue taking your time
3. Prepare her for orgasm
Don’t change what you’re doing in terms of routine . Don’t speed up by rising intensity. Consistency is key for most women, so once you’ve found something that works, stick to it 😉