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Cunnilingus – or better known as licking – is, among other things, one of the most popular ways to get a woman to come.
It becomes problematic when a man spits out big sounds, but that’s all his mouth has to offer.
In this article you will learn how proper licking works!
Oral sex can be heaven or hell for a woman and these two places, when licking, are just a tongue blow away from each other. Often pure overconfidence is a widespread problem.
Because hardly any other topic can be treated as versatile and sensitive as the licking of a woman. It’s often assumed that fast movements, crowned by an uncontrollable in and out of the finger, bring the woman to come.
It depends more on gentle movements and a slight pressure, which is exerted either with your tongue, or your finger, on the clitoris.
It’s important to find the perfect place. However, we can reassure you, it sounds harder than it is.
So no need to worry.
With the following tips, you will become the king of proper licking (Cunnilingus).
In order to give you the best possible condition to beam the woman of your choice towards the sky when licking, this article is worth its weight in gold.
Little by little we will explain to you how to become the master of licking and thus indispensable in bed, for the woman of your dreams.
First of all, it is important to know that no technology works for every woman. Vulvas are as different as women themselves. They come in all shapes, sizes and colors. There is no right or wrong here.
Cunnilingus – where do I start, and where do I stop?
There is good sex, better blowjobs, and then there is the licking. A science in itself, because while you will certainly get a successful orgasm with a blowjob, with a few simple rules, this is usually not so easy for women.
Often it takes more than just a back and forth move and an in and out with your finger.
Not too moist, but it must not be dry, but if you get the feeling of moistening the Sahara with your tongue, you are welcome to take your saliva into play.
This makes it easier for your fingers to penetrate them during licking without injuring them and to finish the act before both of you could even get going.
In most cases, however, it is easier to deal with the partner beforehand in order to find out what he is into.
Because you can’t just generalise on that.
Creating the perfect atmosphere
We know them all. This one woman who can always and everywhere, without lubricant and without much preparation, be right on it. But this is by no means the norm!
Usually it takes a certain atmosphere to bring a woman to that certain level. To create the perfect basis for a real leak experience, however, it does not take much.
Sometimes mood lighting or relaxed music is enough.
Communication is also everything. Talk to each other. Clarify what you stand for. Thus, it can be much easier for you to respond to her wishes in order to give her the perfect orgasm.
Because one vulva is not comparable to another and if you want to know what the lady of your choice is into, a conversation will be inevitable.
A good foreplay hasn’t hurt anyone!
It’s best to start by slowly kissing her from above, play with her body and fully engage with her. While you slowly feel your way to her vagina.
A little tip from us, you are not petrified, so use your hands! Make her feel like you’re there and want her.
Touch her neck and stroke her breasts. You can slowly push yourself from top to bottom. Start kissing her from the belly button down, very slowly, because that’s how you increase her lust immeasurably.
Gently stroke her thighs from the outside in until you reach her thong. Usually you can see whether this is already damp or not, if so you have done it more than right.
Get involved with them and enjoy the moment you are now sharing with each other. A really good foreplay is half the battle for a successful oral sex.
Once you have made her really hot, she will not want to do without it anymore and the best thing about it is, she is getting wetter and wetter without you having to do anything extraordinary at all.
The right moment for licking the vagina
Starting with a good foreplay, you have now arrived at the right moment.
As soon as you feel that she is gradually getting crazier and crazier about you, the time has come to dedicate yourself to her vagina.
The motto is “From the outside to the inside”.
So it’s best to start by kissing the outer area of her vagina and gradually working your way inwards.
Take your time! Watch and above all enjoy how she gets turned on by you. See the whole thing as a kind of game.
Play with her body and her lust.
Keep your eyes peeled for the signals
It is important that you do not ignore the signals.
A clear indication is a loud moan, as a sign that she fully enjoys your work. Usually this loud moaning begins, with a faster and more exuberant breathing.
This will tell you if it feels right and good for the partners of your choice. Maybe she will also start holding your head to make sure that you don’t let go of her at the wrong moment.
These are all good signs and show you that the lady likes it and that she enjoys your work.
It may well be that her pelvis twitches, as she is totally exuberant and completely surrenders to the moment.
These are all good signs, but if it bothers you while licking, you can easily hold her pelvis and push it down. This gives you better control over their movements.
Variety when licking is everything
It is important that you vary the movements of your tongue to become unpredictable.
Because nothing is worse than boredom during oral sex. So it remains an exciting experience for you, not knowing what will happen next.
In addition to the movement of the tongue, speed is also a decisive point. Here you can also vary. If you feel like what you’re doing is well received, you can also easily suck on her labia.
Alternate your movements and try yourself to find the perfect path for you.
Absolute no-go when licking
Nothing is worse than the feeling of having the whole tongue of the partner in you within a few seconds. So, always nice with the peace and just do not build up stress.
If you really want to lead her to orgasm during licking, you need to give her time and definitely not stress her out.
Because this subconscious stress will only lead to her not being able to completely detach herself and not fully enjoy the thing, which would be absolutely a pity.
If you then want to experience satisfying oral sex yourself, you should also offer it to your counterpart. Because, as you know, one hand washes the other, doesn’t it? So give what you want to get.
And one more thing, the clitoris is not a DJ desk. So no wild, indiscriminate back and forth.
Parallel fingers
Of course, you can also finger them properly during this time.
The only important thing is that this does not end in a lifeless in and out movement. Because there is nothing more un-erotic than that.
You determine the rhythm, but variety is everything here.
Not to forget that the lady has a clitoris, which offers the best supporter for a successful orgasm.
However, you can stimulate the well-known G-spot by fingering, which makes the orgasm even more special.
Many women like to enjoy both in parallel, i.e. licking and fingering is like vanilla and chocolate ice cream. Almost nothing fits together better.
There your communication is again the key to success, or rather to the ultimate orgasm.
Because every person is different and no method works for one as it does for the other.
Look her in the eye during cunnilingus
Hardly any woman who loves oral sex does not love to be looked at, touched and kissed during it.
Don’t hide between their legs.
Take a look at them every now and then.
If you’re unsure, just ask her how she likes it. That would also be a perfect start for dirty talk.
However, this is not for everyone and requires a touch of courage.
Once overcome, however, this could be an unforgettable experience for BOTH, because while you delight her and tell her how incredibly hot she looks, it will certainly not have a negative impact on your work, guaranteed not.
Increase desire by licking properly
If you feel like you’re doing everything right and believe me, you’ll feel that, you can stroke her thigh, or slowly extend the kisses towards the belly button.
However, do not do this at the wrong moment!
There is nothing more annoying than quitting just before your lady would have come.
As breathing gets faster and louder, to the point of loud moaning, you know that an orgasm can’t be far away.
Then I would advise you not to let go of the clitoris.
Focus on it first and increase from time to time.
The perfect orgasm through Cunnilingus
You can tell the perfect orgasm by the fact that she can hardly hold back. She will moan loudly, her pelvis will move quickly.
Maybe she will reach for you more firmly and let herself fall completely. You will notice that it is getting wetter and wetter, which is a good sign.
The only important thing is that no sentences like “let it get behind us” or, “hurry up, I want to come too”. That doesn’t make for anything positive, so much for that.
All such a sentence does is pressure and nothing is more inappropriate than pressure, in a situation that should be full of relaxation.
As soon as the lady turns on her head again and starts thinking about it, your moment is over before he could even start.
Give her the time she needs.
And if you take the time, she will give it back to you twice and three times during your next oral sex.
However, if everything goes smoothly and she was able to experience a completely detached orgasm, the perfect basis for another orgasm is now created.
For this, I would recommend you to leave a certain amount of time between the two orgasms. Take your time!
You may also want to be satisfied orally. It’s a give and take and a night offers enough time to pamper each other from A to Z. So no hustle and bustle. Because nothing is a bigger mood killer than stress.
The perfect conclusion
Once you have led her to orgasm by really licking, she will certainly no longer be able to deny you a wish. So perfect to change roles now.
Now you can enjoy a successful oral sex yourself, but maybe also sex or the well-known 69, which by the way is perfect to satisfy each other orally.