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What makes a good blowjob?
A blowjob is when a man or woman puts their lover’s penis in their mouth and sucks and licks it for the man’s pleasure. You can also talk about oral sex, however without good tips your partner is only going to be moderately enthusiastic.
A good blowjob goes far beyond that. The partner gets an indescribable experience. He is back and forth and as in ecstasy. He feels your connection and lust. There is no comparable feeling for him!
The best way to spice up your sex life is to get tips and advice from experts. This article gives you competent advice from kinky women (good masters).
Whether you’re experienced or (still) a newcomer to this field, here you’ll find all the tips that make you an oral goddess!
These are the facts
- 99% of men love blowjobs
- Most women are bad at blowing
- However: You can greatly improve your BJ skills
A short guide
When you give a blowjob, you want to give your partner a very intimate favour. For this you will take his penis in your mouth and take the time to build up their sexual stimulus.
It is clearly obvious that… The penis is the most sensitive part of a man, therefore if you use the right technique, it’s easy to go from blowjob to Orgasm. Of course there are many different ways to ‘give head’. On the one hand, you can mainly use your tongue and turn him on, and then on the other hand, you can also simulate a type of sex using your mouth.
Mostly it is worth applying both of these, and after the prelude, you should slowly move over and start playing with your tongue at the top of his penis. It’s an incredibly sensitive nerve. However, this type of blowjob rarely leads to orgasm.
If you notice that it is getting quite well lubricated, and you can barely keep hold as easily, you should start to turn it up a notch – switch up the gears!
Now you can swallow it with your whole mouth. In addition, you can also use your hands to provide even more stimulation.
Tip #1 Allow Yourself Time and He Waits
The first tip is to take your time. Start by giving tiny, teasing kisses to his stomach and thighs before letting your lips swipe over the tip of his penis.
An extended foreplay builds enormous tension. He is now becoming more and more impatient and eager. His desire will continue to grow and grow quite rapidly.
This has a psychological background. We want whatever we can’t have. Take advantage of this principle and your guy will just want you more!
When you finally start giving blow jobs, the rewards feel all the better.
Tip #2 Use your hands
Many women think that using their hands during oral sex is a myth. On the contrary, the man will indeed appreciate it even more!
Here is the easiest way to use your hands – if you’re giving him a blowjob, grab his cock and massage it up and down slowly (Just like you would do with a normal hand-job).
But that’s not all!
As you continue to blow it, take his balls in your hand and start massaging them. Pay attention to his feedback. Does he moan a little more? Does he breathe louder?
You can also slowly crank it up a little more – just grab a little firmer, most guys will love it!
Tip #3 Kissing, Kissing and Kissing
Another way to start a good blowjob is to kiss his cock AND his whole body.
With kissing you can delay everything just that little bit longer. He will probably start to burst slowly with horniness.
Work slowly from top to bottom. If you’re close to the penis, take another step back, that will make him boil!
In general, you should always try to do what he doesn’t expect. Take advantage of the surprise moment, it will work well for you!
When you arrive at his dick, don’t just immediately start giving the blowjob. Instead, kiss him slowly and all over.
Then slowly but surely increase the intensity. Light kisses become wet, and then after the kissing, you can turn to the blowjob.
He will love it even more if you really get into the swing of thigs. Let your inner slut run free!
Just imagine that you can only suck penis for the rest of your life – then give it everything you’ve got!
Don’t be surprised if you have a few pleasure drops (pre-cum) at this time.
Tip #4 keep eye contact
Men love eye contact! It’s just part of giving a great blowjob.
Look up to him when you’re in the middle of giving him head. This may not be very easy, and remember that few people (including women) can fully concentrate on two things at the same time.
That means you don’t have to stare at him all the time, you can use two phases:
Phase 1: Just focus on the blowjob and give it the horniest feeling on its tail.
Phase 2: Now you look him seductively in the eye and keep eye contact. He’ll find that mega horny!
Now you take turns from one to the other.
In case of intense eye contact, oxytocin is released. This is the hormone that makes you feel connected to your partner, and… So he will really love you!
Tip #5 explore his Frenulum
The Frenulum is the ribbon at the bottom of his penis. It contains a bundle of nerves, which is extremely excitable.
You can take advantage of that during the blowjob, by using the tip of the tongue to stroke over it, or circle slowly around the penis dome.
Stop occasionally and this will allow you to get them to their ‘pleasure point’ – then… Wait for his reaction.
Often he will try to put his penis into a position that makes him feel even more pleasure!
But remember, don’t just give him whatever he wants. Let him fidget a little!
Only then do you satisfy his desire properly…
Tip #6 explore other sensitive areas
There are many areas on your husband’s body (except the shaft of his penis) that are very sensitive, and these can lead to an extraordinary experience of pleasure.
As a beginner you can use the zone around his penis, testicles and below.
Let your hands also roam over other sensitive areas of his body, e.g. behind his knees, over his butt and the inner thighs.
As an advanced person, you can also include other areas, such as petting the prostate can make men go really wild. However, you should always discuss these things beforehand, as not every man will be keen on it!
Tip #7 ask him what he stands for
And so we come to one of the most important points…. No tail (or man) is the same!
To put it simply – everyone has very different and specific likes and needs.
So, don’t just rely on tips from the internet, you really need to try to figure out what makes your partner tick.
Ask him what he stands for, but don’t be too insistent, as sometimes he will not always be ready to completely open up.
Instead you can tell him about you own wishes, such as the things that you’d like to try out.
Also make sure you point out that you’re not going to judge other people’s preferences, and then he will most likely tell youwhat he really wants.
Remember – if you never talk about it, there’s a good chance that sexual boredom will set in and you’ll only be in the starfish position.
Tip #8 Don’t Be Still at Blowjob
For men, one of the hottest things a girl can do during a good blowjob is to show how much she actually enjoys it.
Sounds or moans like .. “mmms”… and.. “aaahhs”… can really spice up your blowjob!
It always makes it a more pleasureable experience for your husband, and makes him feel like you’re not just doing the blowjob, but that you really enjoy it.
After all, what kind of man would resist? – there’s nothing better!
Tip #9 Don’t be too timid when blowing
Penises are much harder than you might think!
Many women make the mistake that it needs to be handled too gently. Now of course that’s fine during the build up!
But once the actual blowjob gets going, you can start to pack really tightly, then bring in working it with your hands as well as your mouth.
Try to close your mouth lips together so that you put a little bit more pressure on the penis. This increases stimulation and just makes it feel so much better.
Remember – the two most sensitive spots are the tip and the clutch.
While you’re sucking at the top, you can simultaneously stroke the clutch with your hand.
You can also try to squeeze the area above and below the penis attachment. This works particularly well in men with bigger penises.
Tip #10 share your enthusiasm
Whilst there maybe hundreds of fancy tricks out there, the truth is that you don’t have to make any crazy moves that he’s never seen before.
The real key to a great blowjob is your enthusiasm!
Bringing real enthusiasm into a blowjob goes far beyond any “deepthroating” fantasy.
Let him see in a glance that you are hungry for him!
Do it slowly, then quickly, then slowly again. This will show him that you are there because you really want to be there.
Even if you’re not mega motivated… Do as if you are, and after a short time you will actually get to like it! This is a trick that is also often used by psychologists in many areas of life – not just in sex.
Tip #11 Give him the perfect climax
If you only apply a few of the tips given above, your guy will get the orgasm of his life!
No, seriously. Chances are that you will have a very intimate experience together, and that’s what it’s all about, isn’t it?
When he comes to the climax of oral sex, he experiences it more than from normal sex. In general of course, women have the deeper orgasm.
With the right technology, however, the man will also enjoy too!
If you notice that he comes right away, you should reduce the pressure and slow down a bit.
Then you can really enjoy the ejaculation with him!
You can of course decide for yourself whether you prefer to spit or swallow! Most men, of course, like it very much when you swallow their sperm.
Finally, we have a few hints about what you shouldn’t do under any circumstances.
These 3 things you should avoid so as not to jeopardize the experience!
Tip #12 Don’t Use Your Teeth
Teeth and penises are not the best of friends. In the blowjob, the teeth are not part of it, unless your counterpart is particularly into it.
But make sure that you talk to him beforehand, because it really can hurt. And most people don’t like it, under any circumstances.
Of course, if you are no longer a beginner in the BDSM scene, and have moved further on, then teeth are probably not an obstacle when blowing.
Otherwise, just do without it. You can also spoil him with the help of the tips.
Tip #13 Do the same over and over again
Always doing the same technique is boring! Men and women want variety.
This doesn’t mean you should be changing techniques every few seconds, but if you are always using the same technique for too long, he might just fall asleep at some point (ok, this may be a little exaggerated)!
Again, look at his reactions. If he breathes faster and moans a little more, then he is probably enjoying it. Remember, you should keep seeing if he is enjoying it.
If so, just keep doing it.
If not: Try something different until he gets really horny!
Bonus: Who gives this will be given
If you let yourself go completely during the blowjob, and really spoil your partner, he will certainly want to return the favour.
And what could be better than really passionate sex with your loved one? Or to be licked out well?
At least if he’s good at it.
Would you like to have a guide?
Great blowjob techniques (you need to test)
To make a little more variations in your oral sex, here are some techniques that promise variety.
Of course, all you have to do is try out the things you feel comfortable with. Some tips are a bit tough, just be persistent.
- Press your tongue against the shaft and slowly lick it. This will increase the intensity of even the most insensitive guy!
- At the tip of the tail, nibble and suck while both hands touch the lower part. It’s like a blowjob and a handjob all at the same time!
- Lick the balls and suck them. This gives a great feeling, which does not lead directly to orgasm, but will excite him all the more.
- Spit on his tail and take it in really deep – a deep-throat is still the best of all!
- Make your mouth as tight as possible, as this will increase the feeling.
What makes the perfect blowjob?
Is there actually the perfect blowjob? Every person is different and reacts differently. There are also different preferences depending on how you are felling that day. That’s why we don’t think there’s such a thing as ‘perfect oral sex’. Instead of tormenting yourself with such a question, you should just try to give the best experience.
It doesn’t have to be perfect, just remember – have you ever been perfectly satisfied? Next time you have sex, install one or the other tip until you are on the right side.
Blowjob FAQ
What is a blowjob?
A blowjob is the sexual satisfaction of the male penis with the mouth and tongue. The synonym for this is oral sex.
How does a blowjob feel?
The blowjob feels very exciting, but at the same time relaxing. This also varies depending on how the blowjob is done. So, for example, whether it’s hard or relaxed, if the blowjob lasts for a certain duration, or if it is possible to get to orgasm.
How does a blowjob work?
There are plenty of ways to do a blowjob. You can only stimulate the penis with your tongue (e.g. in circles over the glands). Also you can suck on the penis, but make your mouth as tight as possible as you move your head back and forth.
How to do a good blowjob?
A good blowjob satisfies your partner perfectly. Since each person is different, you should always communicate with your partner, so that you can find out what he’s going to do during oral sex.
A little tip: If you think he’s close to orgasm – pause for a moment, so you can make the climax even more exciting.
How long does a blowjob take?
There is no exact duration of how long a blowjob should take. It also depends on your goal. If the blowjob is only part of the prelude, it will usually last around 2-3 minutes. After that, his penis is usually really stiff. But if you want to blow it to orgasm, it can take anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes. But remember, some men can’t come like that, no matter how good you are!
What’s your favorite trick in blowing? What’s really on you?