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The education of the slave, or the sub, is the top priority of the dominant (or dom). And what is part of such a good upbringing? Of course, the BDSM punishments used for any misdemeanor.
The punishment in itself is not only a measure, but is also intended to increase the desire of dom/dominant and sub/slave.
If the same punishments are used again and again, it can become very boring for both of you at some point. If you’re also new to the BDSM scene, there’s usually a lack of ideas when it comes to a proper punishment.
Creativity is therefore required. Effective punishments must be made, but which ones? Well we listened to some of the best Doms and collected the 10 most popular punishment. And here they are at a glance.
But beware! Not every punishment will have the desired effect on your slave or sub.
Because every human being has different boundaries. So get to know the limits of your sub/slave better. Then you will also find appropriate punishment for him/her without having to think long.
Also, don’t forget to read our Introduction to BDSM
Physical BDSM punishments
With physical BDSM punishments, beatings are of course very popular. But let’s face it, it gets pretty boring over time, right? There’s so much more you can try to make your sub/slaves feel your displeasure.
Punishment #1: Figging
When figging, you have to be extra careful, because here a thumb-sized piece of ginger is introduced into the anus of your sub/slave. However, before the time comes, you must free the ginger from its shell, so that the essential oils in the anus of your sub/slave can also unfold their full effect.
Don’t forget to carve a kind of handle so that the ginger can be easily removed again.
Introduce the ginger carefully. With your sub you can use it both rectal and vaginal. The feeling of heat should spread relatively quickly and cause both pain and pleasure.
Positive side effect: the effect of the ginger lasts for half an hour after insertion.
Punishment #2: Tickling
Tickling is not pleasant for many people, but is more of a torment. Whether under the armpits, on the soles of the feet or any other sensitive place on the body, the feeling of tickling torture is very unpleasant in the long run.
Use a feather, your fingertips, or another soft object. It is important that your sub/slave cannot easily free themself from this situation.
You’ll get an even more intense effect if you make your sub/slave as uncomfortable as possible.
It won’t be long before he/she begs for mercy.
Punishment #3: Spanking
Spanking is probably the classic among punishments. This form of punishment is often used, but also requires a lot of skill if you want to do it right.
Because depending on which tool you use and, most importantly, where and how you use it, the punishment varies. And you can then control how painful the experience is for your sub/slave.
This way, you set the limits to the amount of pain or pleasure to be felt.
The most popular tools for spanking are:
A) The belt (best made of leather)
B) The whip
C) The paddle
D) The flogger
E) The crop
The more often you hit the same place, the more painful it becomes. So the number of individual strokes makes a lot of money in terms of the penalty, as does their intensity.
Punishment #4: Ice cube torture
Can you imagine how unpleasant it can be when an ice cube glides over the sensitive parts of the body? Then you found your perfect punishment. Because also the body of your sub/slave is very sensitive to the ice cold.
To enjoy the punishment for as long as possible, you order your sub/slave to stand still or make them immobilized. Then you can start the torture.
Your sub/slave is particularly sensitive to cold:
- At the temples
- Behind the ears
- On the fine skin of the neck
- On the side of the ribs
- In the arm bend and the knees
- On the labia
- On the testicles
- The inside of the thighs
You will surely find other sensitive places where you can drive slowly along the ice cube. Pay close attention to the reaction of your sub/slave.
Punishment #5: Orgasm ban
We think this punishment is sometimes one of the toughest BDSM punishments ever. Not being allowed to cum or being driven again and again until shortly before (also known as edging) is pure torture. For the desired redemption is denied to the sub/slave.
To torment your sub/slave in exactly this way, you should command her/him to tell you when she/he is about to do so. This takes pain to a whole new set of limits, and you get to enjoy all of the pleasure!
Or you both know each other so well that you know when it’s time. Repeat this process as often as you feel necessary.
Of course, you can also simply issue an orgasm ban. Then your sub/slave must make sure not to cum through your own control. If they fail to do so, you can impose a new penalty. Maybe that’s even what you secretly want?
Psychological BDSM punishments
If physical BDSM punishments don’t get the desired effect, then as the dom you should try something else.
Sometimes it may make sense to play with the emotions of your sub/slave, after all it’s the dom who in charge of setting the limits.
Be a bit creative here. If you have known your sub/slave for a long time, you know exactly which behavior affects them the most.
Punishment #6: Show disappointment
If you have already raised your sub/slave well, what you think about him/her will be very important to him or her, right? After all, you are his/her whole world. So your opinion counts a lot. So how would she/he feel when you express your disappointment?
It will probably break his/her heart and he/she would do anything to prevent you from being disappointed again.The important thing here is that you don’t get soft too quickly, but let your sub/slaves simmer for a while.
After all, it should be remembered that you do not tolerate such behavior.
Punishment #7: Ignore
If it doesn’t help to show your disappointment at the misconduct, then you should go one step further. Completely ignore your sub/slave.
Disregarding punishment is very cruel to people, because we define ourselves through our fellow human beings. If we are ignored, it is more painful than any physical blow.
You are very important to your sub/slave, aren’t you? He or she will therefore do everything to give him/her your attention again.
Punishment #8: Pet-play
Keeping your slave/sub as a pet can be a punishment. Your pet must be on a leash, lick your boots, eat off the ground and have no other human rights. For sensitive slaves/subs, this is the highest form of humiliation.
But the pet-play can also be an exciting way of playing. Here it depends on the preferences of your sub/slave, and how much you wish to play.
Punishment #9: Sharing humiliating messages on social media
This punishment should be enjoyed with caution. The news should be demeaning, but it should not jeopardize the reputation of your sub/slave in their personal or professional environment.
Carefully weigh what your sub/slave can write in his post and what you prefer to do without.
Punishment #10: Food control
You alone determine for a certain period of time what your sub/slave is allowed to eat and drink. But not only that.
You control not only what, but also when he or she is allowed to consume drinks and eat food. Your sub/slave likes to have breakfast at 8 a.m.? Well, the first meal is only around noon.
You wonder how to control this way to eat and drink? Quite simply, you have smartphones, don’t you? She/he should send you a photo or do a video chat.
You can then determine exactly what can and cannot be eaten. If she/he does well, then you may even allow a dessert – or other type of food!
Stay unpredictable!
A dominant/dom should not be one thing: predictable! Always be varied and creative with your rewards, but also with your penalties. Accurately tune the punishment on your sub. Only then will the BDSM penalty be able to have an effect again and again.