Slave Training 101
In BDSM, Master slave is a relationship in which one individual serves another in an authority-exchange structured relationship. Unlike Dominant/submissive structures found in BDSM in which “love” is often the core value, service and obedience are often the core values in Master/slave structures. The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship uses the term “slave” because of the association of the term with ownership rights of a master to their slave’s body, as property or chattel.
Know what you want
A master must be able to inspire confidence in others because he knows what they want. You need to know what you want your slave to be and do. Then you can find someone who agrees with you and will help you achieve your goals.
Understand the real dynamic
Master/slave relationships are best built on principles, not rules and regulations. Getting someone to do something, for instance, works in the short run, getting them to obey is better for the long term. If you pile high the rules they will stifle both of you and be quickly discarded anyway. Well thought-out principles, on the other hand, will stand the test of time.
Inspire
It’s for that reason that knowing what you want is so important, since the vision you have you must be able to share. Slaves, of course, have the same responsibility. Their task, really, is to find a master who will understand their vision for life and own it as his own as well. Returning to the idea of dynamic, each is going to empower the other to attain their own goals.
Communicate your desires
Share your desires from their depths. Give reasons, purposes, and explanations to the best of your ability as to why you want such and such done in a certain way. Let them know what you’re thinking, feeling, and desiring and why this certain detail is so important.
Teach technique
Never let a teachable moment pass without sharing the lesson. Remind the slave as to what is needed on his part. Say helpful things like “Breathe. It’ll make the pain less intense, This is the way I like my drink mixed.” Unless you give clear instructions you will never get what you want.
Reward often
The master/slave relationship, like all other relationships, is a two-way street. Both of you have to find pleasure in it. Unless the slave realizes real benefits from his service to you, there will be no incentive to continue. Reward verbally, especially when it’s least expected. Praise often. Use small gestures, touches, and phrases to slip in compliments and thanks often.
Communicate your feelings
Not only is it imperative to reward verbally, but it is equally necessary to let your slave know what is wrong and what behaviors you wished changed. Be careful not to do so in anger. Instead establish regular times when you can both discuss the relationship and how each of your needs can be met.
Explain when you train
Giving reasons will both reinforce the activity and make it more meaningful to the slave. Let your training include the mind as well as the spirit and the body and every other aspect of human life.
Punish when necessary
Punishment is never to be done for pleasure. Punishment is meant to be disincentive to repetition of the activity. Make it fit the crime, so to speak and make it rather immediate. Once administered let it be done, and done forever. Never punish in anger.
Show and share your pride
Let others know how happy you are with your property. It is a high form of praise and an excellent reward. In fact without giving them their share of pleasure there will be no slavery. Without slavery, there will be no master.
Have you trained a slave? If so what techniques did you use?
